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Never Speak Badly To Your Children Of Their Mother Or Father

No matter what happens, no matter how you feel towards the other parent, it is never allowed to speak badly to your children of their father or mother. It is not allowed because you will create an emotional wound that will not heal easily (if it ever heals!). For your children, life is not the same since their father or mother left home. The designated dates are reminders that you are no longer with them every day, and they have a hard time.

Nobody is perfect

No one is perfect in this life. Nobody knows how to be a father or mother, some may be better than others, but nobody has excellence in it. The important thing is to do the best you can, always thinking about the good of the children and the family nucleus, whether with the parents together or separately. A father can make mistakes with his children at times, but it is important to learn from those m

istakes to try to do better in the future.

Think about the welfare of your children

Suppose you want to think about the welfare of your children, then never speak ill of their father or mother. You will only do more damage to them with that poison in the form of words. Do not do it; it is better that you focus on the happiness of your children and that you are well together. You may think that it is fair that your children know how bad a person their father or mother

is, but in reality, you are doing them a disservice that will only cause them emotional damage.

Don’t let anger and resentment darken your heart as you will only be creating more pain and hatred, something that is neither fair nor good for your children.

Do not speak ill of parents to children

When you speak badly to your children about their mother or father, you will be disrespecting your child as a person, and you will also be poisoning an innocent thought. Your children are not to blame for their mother or father being that person you chose to have them, nor are you to blame for what they did to you.

You do not need to say anything bad about their other parent; they will find out what happens. Do not want to rush to tell them something with bad blood because they will realize. But of course, if one day your son asks you things, tell him the truth, honestly and without grudges. Always plead for calm … put hatred aside.

When your child grows up, he will feel grateful that you did not speak ill of his father or mother even if he deserved it. You will find out what it means to respect another person, even if you don’t always deserve it. Above you or your emotions is the emotional and mental well-being of your child. Think about it.

Discipline Your Child but Don’t Hurt Them

Sometimes it hurts parents to discipline their children because we think that if we do it, they will stop loving us. There are parents who may be too “soft” or permissive, thinking that it is better for their little ones, but the reality is that they are doing their little ones a disservice.

The tree must be watered from a young age, it is said, and it is that just like a tree that we hope will grow strong and healthy, it requires care; children need the discipline to become successful people.

Parental fear

Normally, one of the greatest educational fears of parents is not knowing how to discipline their children correctly and that as the years go by, their little ones begin to have disrespectful behaviors.

Love of children also requires discipline and doing uncomfortable things like setting limits or disciplining when necessary. Parents need to know that being a figure of authority and discipline is a requirement for the good education of their children, although sometimes it hurts us emotionally because we think that we are not doing things well.

Discipline and children

Many parents have the misconception that disciplining their children means that they are afraid of them as if it were the only form of obedience that exists. Nothing is further from the truth; children do not need to be afraid to have good behavior. To establish norms, punishments are not necessary, but the consequences previously agreed upon are necessary so that children understand the need to be able to decide about their own behavior.

There are serious mistakes, such as believing that punishment is a beating or a reprimand is shouting. These errors that seem “normal” in times of discipline can have serious emotional and behavioral consequences for children as time passes.

Love towards children

Even if you have to discipline, what your children can never miss is to feel your love every day. Despite the fact that sometimes you get angry or have to scold them for their bad behavior, your love for them should never be diminished and that your children should see it daily. Children need constant love and attention in order to evolve properly. Establishing rules, norms, and limits are not at odds with love for your children.

Beware of favoring bad behaviors

There are times when parents inadvertently favor bad behavior, thinking that they are doing their little ones a favor. For example, if you buy everything she asks for or gives her all her demands, without realizing it and to avoid tantrums or arguments, you will be creating a capricious, selfish child, without empathy, irresponsible, and who does not understand discipline or authority. You will always want to get away with it, and this is not something that will benefit you in your future life.

Always with love and respect

Whenever you have to discipline, do it with love and respect for the person your child is. This way, they can feel respected all the time and will value the discipline you impose more. Make your child understand that each action has its reward or its consequences, depending on what he does and the option he chooses. This way, you will begin to learn how life works and will be able to make the right decisions both in the short and long term.